My mom died three weeks ago. I find myself wondering where she is and wanting to connect with her. I've seen glimpses of her here and there but I wish it were more. One of the hardest things for me is that I can't visualize where she is.
Submitted by illuminator on December 31, 2009 - 1:57pm.
I'm so sorry for your loss, Nancy. I know how profound the loss of one's mother can be, regardless of their age—or ours, when we lose them. My wish for you is that your Mom's passing will lead you to new discoveries about life and (the illusion of) "death"—and to new realizations about your own, true, eternal identity. That's why we're here after all, to experience and feel everything deeply (the highs and the lows), to ask important questions when life disappoints us (and pay attention to the answers!)—and to expand and evolve from all of the above.
Our ability to comprehend the eternal nature of the soul is pretty challenging for us, we spiritual beings who are having a momentary earthly experience in this three-dimensional, physical reality. In physical form, our understanding is limited when we view life through a particular lens that filters our perceptions and influences our beliefs—most of all, those involving the concept of "death." This tunnel(ed) vision inhibits our ability to feel the presence of loved ones who have "dropped the body," leaving us feeling quite alone and separate from them—and often abandoned by a Higher Power as well.
Here a quote from a book i just finished, The Shack, not a literary masterpiece (in my opinion), but a wonderfully creative depiction of God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. Here, Sarayu, the personification of the Holy Spirit is trying to help Mack comprehend the nature of his emotions in the aftermath of the abduction and murder of his young daughter:
"Paradigms power perception and perceptions power emotions." Most emotions are responses to perception—what you think is true about a given situation. If your perception is false, then your emotional response to it will be false too. So check your perceptions, and beyond that check the truthfulness of your paradigms—what you believe. Just because you believe something firmly doesn't make it true. Be willing to reexamine what you believe. The more you live in the truth, the more your emotions will help you see clearly. But even then, you don't want to trust them more than me" (the Holy Spirit).
Amazing things will happen, Nancy, when you allow your beliefs to shift re. your mother's "death." Ask to be shown. When you open up to the notion that the soul never dies—that there truly exists a continuum of consciousness (I refer to as "streaming consciousness")—you'll access the conduit that connects you and your mother, eternally.
Here's my all-time favorite example of this continuum of consciousness:
Several years ago, I was reading a client in London, a middle-aged, successful entrepreneur. He was a meditator (able to quiet himself) and did often feel the presence of his beloved wife who had passed almost a year before. I interpreted the following (telepathic) projections from his ("non-physical") wife: "Now," she began, "about that conversation we were having before we were so rudely interrupted by my death!"
I love this demonstration of our ongoing, seamless, timeless consciousness that continues beyond the physical. You can trust that your mother's thoughts and feelings, memories, humor—never ended and continue on with her energy. She is now free from the limitations of being physical, experiencing expanded awareness, insights, and the "non-local" nature of her spirit. This means that as pure consciousness—pure thought—your mother can be anywhere—and everywhere at the same time.
It's misleading to perceive that your mother has gone some "where"—to some place: the "other side," to heaven....wherever. This is simply a projection of your own time-space (place) reality. In order to operate in the physical, we must fit everything into a chronological time-frame (which stresses the spirit no end), placing everything and everyone as being "here"....or "there." Your mom has been released into a "no-time (no-place) zone." I myself, spend most of my professional life in this "no-time zone."
Trust the amazing conduit that still connects you and your Mom, the heart connection. It will become easier as you change the lens of your perceptions. The sensing of her presence will become more discernible and more distinct—yes, often appearing in the corner of your eye in the briefest, most unexpected moment. But drop your expectations as to how she will come to you. She will send you "cosmic winks" in her own way.
I mention in Heart-Links that loved ones often say, "If you want us to come to you in a dream, let your last thoughts before sleep be ones of gratitude. They open your heart and let us come through more clearly." Your mother is there with you when you gaze upon something that reminds you of her, or when you simply feel a wave of love for her. These are sure-fire ways to "dial her up."
All my love to you and your mother as you embark together on this new, amazing journey, discovering the true nature of your timeless selves—and that your heart connection is indeed, eternal.
Submitted by nancyjones on January 7, 2010 - 2:34pm.
Thank you for your thoughts and help. I appreciate it very much. I have looked for some readings but haven't found a lot yet. I wondered if you could recommend some reading about this topic. Thank you so much again.
Submitted by illuminator on January 30, 2010 - 2:37am.
My book focuses on communication with loved ones—who I now choose to refer to as simply "non-physical" souls, since they've really not gone some where. The book includes instructive (and sometimes humorous) sessions where I've interpreted for clients' loved ones, as well as helpful tools to facilitate your own emerging trust in your ability to be in touch.
"If you want us [loved ones] to come to you in a dream, let your last thoughts before sleep be those of gratitude. This creates the frequency that allows us come through more clearly."
The Continuum of Consciousness
I'm so sorry for your loss, Nancy. I know how profound the loss of one's mother can be, regardless of their age—or ours, when we lose them. My wish for you is that your Mom's passing will lead you to new discoveries about life and (the illusion of) "death"—and to new realizations about your own, true, eternal identity. That's why we're here after all, to experience and feel everything deeply (the highs and the lows), to ask important questions when life disappoints us (and pay attention to the answers!)—and to expand and evolve from all of the above.
Our ability to comprehend the eternal nature of the soul is pretty challenging for us, we spiritual beings who are having a momentary earthly experience in this three-dimensional, physical reality. In physical form, our understanding is limited when we view life through a particular lens that filters our perceptions and influences our beliefs—most of all, those involving the concept of "death." This tunnel(ed) vision inhibits our ability to feel the presence of loved ones who have "dropped the body," leaving us feeling quite alone and separate from them—and often abandoned by a Higher Power as well.
Here a quote from a book i just finished, The Shack, not a literary masterpiece (in my opinion), but a wonderfully creative depiction of God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. Here, Sarayu, the personification of the Holy Spirit is trying to help Mack comprehend the nature of his emotions in the aftermath of the abduction and murder of his young daughter:
"Paradigms power perception and perceptions power emotions." Most emotions are responses to perception—what you think is true about a given situation. If your perception is false, then your emotional response to it will be false too. So check your perceptions, and beyond that check the truthfulness of your paradigms—what you believe. Just because you believe something firmly doesn't make it true. Be willing to reexamine what you believe. The more you live in the truth, the more your emotions will help you see clearly. But even then, you don't want to trust them more than me" (the Holy Spirit).
Amazing things will happen, Nancy, when you allow your beliefs to shift re. your mother's "death." Ask to be shown. When you open up to the notion that the soul never dies—that there truly exists a continuum of consciousness (I refer to as "streaming consciousness")—you'll access the conduit that connects you and your mother, eternally.
Here's my all-time favorite example of this continuum of consciousness:
Several years ago, I was reading a client in London, a middle-aged, successful entrepreneur. He was a meditator (able to quiet himself) and did often feel the presence of his beloved wife who had passed almost a year before. I interpreted the following (telepathic) projections from his ("non-physical") wife: "Now," she began, "about that conversation we were having before we were so rudely interrupted by my death!"
I love this demonstration of our ongoing, seamless, timeless consciousness that continues beyond the physical. You can trust that your mother's thoughts and feelings, memories, humor—never ended and continue on with her energy. She is now free from the limitations of being physical, experiencing expanded awareness, insights, and the "non-local" nature of her spirit. This means that as pure consciousness—pure thought—your mother can be anywhere—and everywhere at the same time.
It's misleading to perceive that your mother has gone some "where"—to some place: the "other side," to heaven....wherever. This is simply a projection of your own time-space (place) reality. In order to operate in the physical, we must fit everything into a chronological time-frame (which stresses the spirit no end), placing everything and everyone as being "here"....or "there." Your mom has been released into a "no-time (no-place) zone." I myself, spend most of my professional life in this "no-time zone."
Trust the amazing conduit that still connects you and your Mom, the heart connection. It will become easier as you change the lens of your perceptions. The sensing of her presence will become more discernible and more distinct—yes, often appearing in the corner of your eye in the briefest, most unexpected moment. But drop your expectations as to how she will come to you. She will send you "cosmic winks" in her own way.
I mention in Heart-Links that loved ones often say, "If you want us to come to you in a dream, let your last thoughts before sleep be ones of gratitude. They open your heart and let us come through more clearly." Your mother is there with you when you gaze upon something that reminds you of her, or when you simply feel a wave of love for her. These are sure-fire ways to "dial her up."
All my love to you and your mother as you embark together on this new, amazing journey, discovering the true nature of your timeless selves—and that your heart connection is indeed, eternal.
Louise
Thank you
Thank you for your thoughts and help. I appreciate it very much. I have looked for some readings but haven't found a lot yet. I wondered if you could recommend some reading about this topic. Thank you so much again.
I might recommend...oh...Heart-Links!
My book focuses on communication with loved ones—who I now choose to refer to as simply "non-physical" souls, since they've really not gone some where. The book includes instructive (and sometimes humorous) sessions where I've interpreted for clients' loved ones, as well as helpful tools to facilitate your own emerging trust in your ability to be in touch.